As I sit in the waiting room with my girlfriend at the ultra
sound office. Waiting for the news on the health of our new little baby.
The Proud feeling I feel, quickly, becomes a feeling of second
best, one of feeling little left out. Not a typical feeling an expectant
father should feel when going to see your baby.
When the ultrasound tech calls my girlfriends name, for her turn
to get scanned, I stand up with her as any proud father would, ready to see a
glimpse of our little baby for the first time, excited to get a glimpse of the
little precious him or her.
In an instant the proud feeling that I as a father had, turns
into frustration and anger! I’ll tell you why.
In aloud an abrupt tone and with a rude facial expression I
might add, the ultra sound technician say’s this; "dad
you can stay seated, you come in near the end, this is just for mom".
My first thought was "WHAT" you gotta be @#$%^&
joking! Talking to my self as I sit back down!
I’m not going to lie to you as I write this but I’m feeling
really frustrated! Combined with a heavy heart!
The biggest pain I feel is the feeling of being left out.
Now, hear me out! This complaint does not come out of selfish
gain or not recognizing the importance of mom.
But it takes two to create this little being, so I figure it takes two to view
the ultra sound and be part of the moment, at the same time. I think this is a
valid point? And it should be heard.
I mean this is our
baby is it not? We are mom and dad it took the two of us to create this thing
didn’t it? Then I would think we both should go in at the same time, to enjoy
the moment together?
I feel the medical system and other factors in our society has a
hard time recognizing fathers and their needs at times! The need to be
compassionate towards fathers throughout the pregnancy process is an imperative, I think! It seemed to have failed me big time in this situation.
I
think the willingness of young fathers wanting to be involved in their child's
pregnancy is more common than society thinks.
We should re-think things a little.
Dads are important and we have an important role to play in our
children’s lives I wish that society could recognize this. I feel being treated equal is not two much to
ask!
Thanks
for listening to my story!
Daddy
