Young Dads Meeting Tonight: Anger and what it does to us as fathers.

This picture above is how I feel about the young dads! By sharing our stories we are making stronger communities. You guys are all super Dad's to me!

Well there was no beef jerky or coffee tonight but there was, "A"coffee the coffee I brought for me LOL. Putting coffee and beef jerky aside, we all brought one thing tonight, that one thing was our stories.  And guys I want to thank you for all those stories shared.  The stories shared tonight have encouraged me deeply.  Thank you for being so open and honest, just brilliant!
 
Our topic tonight was on anger, we talked on how we can use our anger to be good fuel or negative fuel moving us forward or backwards in our lives.  A couple of things that jumped out at me as we talked was this:  we all have anger and have experienced anger.  Anger, has positive effects and negative effects on us and our loved ones.  I learned that unresolved anger from our earlier years in life have shaped each of us and has shaped our lives today.  But the greatest or most important thing I learned as you shared was that we don't have to be a victim of anger, we can move past our hurts and still be productive people giving back fully to the world around us and our loved ones.

I'm so encouraged by these young dads, especially the way we can talk on such deep topics week after week and walk away with a sense of togetherness, feeling built up, and feeling very encouraged!  WOW!

This small grass roots group has such great potential!  This group of young dads has the potential to link arms with other hurting dads and to help them too.  My hope is that this group will realize that their stories are powerful and their stories give strength and hope to other dads.  I hope they will continue to extend themselves and link arms with other hurting young fathers all over Surrey!

Hope to see you all again next week....David Morgan    

Quick Hello

Good Day all,

I hope Easter was good for all of you?  Just want to follow up with each of you and invite you to yet again another dads meeting this Friday, at Brads house.  Brad has opened up his living room to us so we can, talk, yell and eat beef jerky, I don't know if we will do it in that order,  and heck I don't even know if there will even be beef jerky there, but I do know we are meeting on Friday and it sounded cool and a dad thing to do, anyhow it will go something like that! LOL!  "We are calling our Friday nights the "SOUNDING BOARD", thanks BRAD for that!   The SOUNDING BOARD is a safe place for young fathers to connect and vent and receive life tools to succeed in being the best young dad's possible.

This weeks topic is on ANGER,  the focus of this discussion will be, "How do we control our anger?  Letting anger work for the positive in our lives not letting anger get the best of us"? So many young dads have anger, life is frustrating and there is lots of pressures to deal with.  Anger is a natural response to struggle!

Anger is not a bad thing but if we use it in a negative way we can destroy our lives and those we love. I let anger almost destroy my life. Talking to other young father's about my struggle with anger is part of my healing journey and my giving back to our community.  And I'm sure you will find healing too as you share your story!

There is hope!!  You see,  anger used or (channelled) in a positive way can give you the fuel to make positive changes in our lives anger is not a bad thing it's how we use it that counts!

So come on out this Friday, be apart of our community seek change that will help you be a great person, a contributor to society and most importantly a committed father.....David Morgan

Friday's Discussion

So we asked a few questions last Friday at the young dads meeting, if you were unable to make it and are interested in what was talked about I'm posting the questions we talked on so you are kept up to speed for our next meeting.

1)  Describe what a father means to you?

2) What was your relationship like with your father?

3) What type of father do you want to be?

4) What steps do you have to take, to be the best father possible?

The discussion was really good, and I think we are onto something here....Keep being the best dads you can be!  In my mind you all are great dads!

We are not meeting this Friday due to Good Friday, but we will meet the following Friday April 29/2011.  Where we are meeting is unknown as of yet but there are a few good possibilities on the horizon!

Dave

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Last Night "STEPPING UP young fathers"

Last night was really good, it definitely was a guys meeting!  We watched the hockey game and Vancouver won over Chicago. The score..... 4-3, Yahoo!  Bring home the cup Vancouver! While we watched the game the guys talked on "What it means to be a father."  Who says guys can't multitask?  I felt really encouraged by the stories that were shared.  A lot of those stories will help me in the future as I parent my children, and I can't help but think the stories that were shared will benefit all who were there,Thanks guys, for your input! 


 Last night I felt a sense of  "We are onto something here." I couldn't help but think how many young dad's lives can and will be helped and changed as we continue to share our experience's on being a father with one another.  I felt that this new emerging group of young dads can stop the thinking that, "We can continue to father our children on our own, without the help of anyone.....We can be an island unto our own........Never reaching out for help to anyone."  We as young fathers need to understand that we need to stand beside each other, that we are not alone in fatherhood  and that most important, we will find that there is strength given to us as we come together helping one another to understand what it means to be a father.

 

A call to all "Young Fathers" Friday 15th Young Dads Meeting

A shout out to all young fathers, join us THIS Friday,April 15th at 7:30pm.  We will be meeting as a community of young dads, The discussion will be this: "WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A FATHER". Bring your Kids they are welcome, we have a play area for them! For more information on the meeting email Dave,  davemorgan@youthunlimited.com  

"It's time to bring Fatherhood back to the Neighborhood"

It's crucial we support young fathers! Young fathers need our support! Helping young dads get practical life skills/tools is key. These tools will help young fathers stay connected with their children for Life.....Help a young father stay connected with their children in your neighbourhood! Be a mentor be apart of bringing fatherhood back to the neighbourhood!


Young fathers face unbeatable odds,

I have been working with two young dads who are not coping well.  These teen dads’ stories seem to parallel each other.  They are faced with the struggles of now being fathers, dealing with fractured relationships with the mothers, and not knowing how to support their children, let alone take care of themselves.  These young dads so desperately want to be in their children’s lives but don’t have the tools to do so!  They both are very broken over their situations, not wanting their children to become fatherless! It is so vital that we begin to mentor these young fathers in their darkest hour, helping them find tools that work so we can see our communities healed and fatherhood brought back to our neighbourhoods. Mentorship does work; one of my volunteers, Darin Adams, has helped his mentee find a job!  This job was much needed and came at the right time, enabling this young father to stay with his young family and not abandon them (skip out, as he told us), because he could no longer support them!  Praise God for mentors like Darin and Praise God for our committed young fathers!